BDSM Guide & Inspiration - The ultimate guidebook

Welcome to our guide about BDSM and bondage! Here you will find everything you need to know about this world to understand and live it out.

Welcome to our guide about BDSM and bondage! Here you will find everything you need to know about this world to understand and live it out.

Daily BDSM rituals offer couples the opportunity to strengthen their relationship and deepen their emotional bond. They promote intimacy, trust and devotion - not only during intense BDSM sessions, but also in everyday life.

Role play in BDSM: Creative rituals for couples

In this guide, we'll show you how you can make your relationship even more exciting with different role-play scenarios - from classic dom/sub games to more creative approaches that surprise you in unexpected ways.
Discover how couples can intensify their relationship through D/s dynamics - from the first steps to deep emotional and physical surrender. In our comprehensive guide, you will learn how dominance and submission strengthen your connection and which rituals and practices are suitable for this. Perfect for beginners and advanced users, with specific tips and product recommendations for more control and devotion.
Living out a BDSM dynamic can be a challenge for couples with children, as the intimacy and tension of the BDSM lifestyle is often difficult to integrate into everyday life. This guide shows you how you can live out discreet and safe BDSM practices in a family household without having to sacrifice the dynamic between dominance and submission.

Guide: Everything you need to know about femdom

Discover the world of femdom. Learn all about power and control in relationships, different practices and safety tips for beginners and experienced couples.

What is CBT Sex?

The term CBT stands for the so-called Cock and Ball Torture, i.e. the torture of the man's penis and testicles. This type of game is clearly assigned to the field of BDSM and

BDSM Stories: My first real punishment by my master

The shackles are put on
Then finally my husband stopped and stopped me. Still with the blindfold on I stood there waiting. i felt his hands on my body. They undid the knot in the front of my robe. His hands parted the robe. I heard him draw in his breath sharply.

Tasks for slaves that make really horny

Inventing tasks for slaves is not an easy game. The mistress must keep him busy and still make him horny. A lot of things could have the opposite effect. You realize, the job of a dominatrix / mistress is not as easy as thought.

What is ballbusting?

Interestingly, not only men are affected by this fetish. Because many women also find ballbusting extremely appealing and enjoy as an active part the absolute power over and responsibility

Femdom Stories: A marriage slave in sex hell

Chastity is a tingly thing, but it can quickly become a real sex hell. A sex hell that I hate and at the same time love more than anything. My wife has me completely in the hand. She has absolute power over me!

The slave contract as a sample - this is how it can look like

In the BDSM area, a safeguard is often very important. Masters and slaves usually resort to a joint slave contract, which is signed by both the top and the sub and in which rights and obligations in the BDSM relationship are precisely defined. We provide you with such a slave contract as a sample

BDSM Stories: Clinic Games - How my girlfriend made me a patient

My girlfriend Carla and I had been together for just under a year. We still lived in separate apartments and usually saw each other only on weekends, because we were both quite involved professionally. The sex with each other was great and quite fulfilling, even if I would certainly have wished a little more experimentation with Carla...

Tease and Denial - You come when I say so!

Tease & Denial is a very popular sexual practice that even beginners can try. With Tease & Denial, you can live out a fetish and customize it to your liking. As with most BDSM practices, there is a submissive and a dominant part. The dominant part decides when the other person can experience their orgasm.

BDSM Testicle Torture Stories: From the experiences of a dominatrix

As a dominatrix I am well versed in many areas of BDSM and can report many experiences. Especially I like the area of testicular torture. Even the strongest man quickly gives in when ...

BDSM Stories: Seven days slave education

I have a new slave. I still do not know how much experience he has at all. We already had first contacts, but unfortunately you can never really rely on the information of a slave. He seems to be submissive...

What is forced feminization?

The term forced feminization refers to the gradual transformation of a male slave into a female appearance and habitus by a dominatrix or master. Slaves who are subjected to forced feminization are generally called sissies or maids.

BDSM stories about consent and safety

Dive into the world of BDSM play with Susanne, a 41-year-old woman living her deepest fantasies. Learn how she and her partners plan and execute a controlled rape play scenario, emphasizing the importance of safewords and aftercare. A captivating insight into a world characterized by trust, respect and clear boundaries.

BDSM Stories: A week with Tease & Denial - I allow him to come!

My husband and I have been married for many years. You would think that our sex life would have fallen asleep over time. But it hasn't. And why? Because we live out Tease & Denial. Yes, it is a fetish and we are open about it!
This week is already completely planned out as far as our sex life is concerned. And yet it is not predictable

BDSM story about the discovery

Dive into the hidden side of Mika, a young man exploring his sexual limits. From discovering BDSM to mastering bondage play, join Mika on his exciting journey of self-discovery and sexual enlightenment.

BDSM stories from the real world

Join a woman on her journey from submission to dominance in the world of BDSM. Discover how she questions her role as a sub and discovers the fascination of dominance. An authentic story that shows the diversity and dynamics of BDSM.

BDSM Stories For Beginners The First Encounter

Join Tanja and Erik on their exciting journey into the world of BDSM. From their first encounter in a park to intense sexual experiences, discover how Tanja discovers her hidden desires and Erik shows her the art of dominance and submission.

BDSM stories: Trust and Silk

Immerse yourself in the captivating world of Mia and Tom as they experience their first BDSM session together. In "Trust and Silk" they explore their boundaries, build on trust and open communication and reach a new level of emotional intimacy. Join them on their journey and experience the exciting and frightening world of BDSM.

The psychology of BDSM: A deeper insight

Delve into the fascinating world of BDSM and discover the hidden psychological aspects that make these practices so appealing. From power games and control to trust and intimacy, learn how BDSM can contribute to self-discovery and self-affirmation. Learn why BDSM is an enriching and fulfilling experience for many people. Prepare to change the way you look at BDSM!

The Kinky Guide The guide to living out your wildest fantasies

Do you want to live out your wildest fantasies and get to know yourself better? Then the Kinky Guide is for you! Discover a world of sexual preferences and learn how to live out your kinks in a safe and healthy way. Find appropriate accessories and other resources to explore your kinks.

My new slave - BDSM Stories

oday is the day. My new slave will come to me for her first session. I am looking forward to it. At our first meeting she had already thrilled me. Curvy, handy, pleasantly submissive and yet an exciting character. We drank coffee and talked about our wishes and ideas. And then made the appointment today. With me, in my private little studio. I have already prepared everything for her

BDSM Stories: A Day at the BDSM Fair with Cruel Reell

Already a few weeks ago I discovered the account of the well-known dominatrix Cruel Reell on Twitter. I followed the account, watched her videos and posts regularly.
When I then saw that she was still looking for a slave for a workshop, I saw in it my great opportunity.

I wrote to her and applied. Amazingly, she accepted my application.

BDSM Games: Tips for beginners

Do you want to expand your sexual horizons and explore the world of BDSM? Our guide will give you all the tips and tricks you need as a beginner to enjoy BDSM and SM games safely and responsibly. Let us take you on a journey of sexual discovery!
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The first visit to a dominatrix - procedure and preparation

Not everyone can or wants to live out their BDSM inclinations in their own private environment. A visit to an appropriate studio can offer you the opportunity to live out your inclinations and turn the experiences in your head into reality. We'll show you how to best prepare for your first visit to the studio.

BDSM photography & movies - how to produce them

Are you interested in BDSM photography and movies, but don't know where to start? Don't worry, our guide will show you how to start your own project and make it a success. Learn all about equipment, models, safe environment and more!

BDSM and psychology: How BDSM affects the brain

Learn how BDSM affects the brain in this guide. We highlight the psychological aspects of BDSM, from the role of endorphins to the processing of pain and pleasure. Also discover tips on how to practice BDSM safely and healthily, and more resources to deepen your understanding.

BDSM safety rules and how to follow them

Want to make your BDSM adventures safer and healthier? Our guide to BDSM safety shows you the most important rules and practices so you can protect yourself and your partners from injuries and unwanted risks. Learn how to recognize and avoid dangerous situations, how to build trust and communication, and how to choose the right tools and materials. Whether you are a beginner or experienced, this guide is a must for every BDSM player.

BDSM Toys: What you need for your first BDSM experiences

BDSM can be an exciting and fulfilling experience, but it's important to have the right equipment to make the session safe and enjoyable.
More and more people want to experience the magic of BDSM and immerse themselves in a completely new and fascinating world. Not only since "Fifty Shades of Grey" the field of BDSM experiences an increased influx.

Differences between BDSM and abuse

BDSM can be an exciting and fulfilling sexual practice, but there are also risks, especially when it comes to abuse. In this guide, you'll learn how to tell the difference between BDSM and abuse and how to make sure BDSM practices are consensual. Learn the characteristics of abuse and find out what you can do if you suspect abuse. At Steeltoyz, you'll also find the right accessories and other resources on BDSM.
Here you will find everything you need to know about this fascinating world. Whether you are curious or already an experienced BDSM enthusiast, we hope you will get all your questions answered here.

What is a Hogtie? The Bondage Guide

Even though the term hogtie originally comes from the cattle industry, it quickly made its way into the BDSM scene. Many people not only dream of a hogtie, but enjoy this particular form of bondage in many situations.

The ultimate breast tying: A guide for beginners

Discover the exciting and erotic experience of BDSM breast binding. Our comprehensive guide for beginners offers tips and tricks on the right technique and choice of material as well as possible risks. Experience a new feeling of control and submission and strengthen the bond with your partner.

What is CFNM?

The term CFNM comes from the American porn and BDSM scene and means Clothed Female Nude Male. So here a naked man is clothed by

Introduction to the world of BDSM: What is a BDSM session?

Welcome to the world of BDSM. Maybe you've heard of it or even dabbled in it a bit, but still have no idea what a BDSM session actually is. Don't worry, I'm here to explain it all to you.

Bondage Tape - A Beginner's Guide

Bondage tape, also known as bondage tape or BDSM tape, is a flexible and versatile way to tie someone up as part of a BDSM session. It is easy to apply and can be removed quickly and easily, making it a popular choice for beginners and experienced BDSM enthusiasts alike.

Bondage with cotton ropes - tips for safe bondage

For many people, tying up is part of the exciting part of BDSM games. But not every rope is suitable for this purpose. In this guide we want to show you why cotton ropes are the best choice for safe bondage and how to use them properly.
Sensory deprivation is one of the most exciting practices in the field of BDSM and kink. It involves deliberately restricting or even completely eliminating a person's senses, thereby enabling an even more intense experience.

Hand and foot cuffs: The ultimate guide

For many people, the idea of being tied up is exciting and erotic. Bondage can be a great way to freshen up sexuality and bring adventure into the bedroom. However, there are some things to keep in mind when playing with bondage. In this guide, we'll look at how to tie up safely and erotically.

Topping in BDSM: Tips and tricks for a successful start

Topping in BDSM means taking the dominant role in a scene. It's an exciting and fulfilling experience, but it can also be a bit scary when you first start out. In this blog post, we'll discuss tips and tricks to help you get started in the world of topping.

LARP in BDSM: What you need to know

LARP (Live Action Role Play) is a form of role play in which participants express their roles through costumes, props and re-enacting scenes. It is often used in BDSM to act out various scenarios and fantasies that one would otherwise not be able to live out in reality.
Objectification means that a person is made into an object. In BDSM, this is usually practiced in an erotic or sexual context. The dominant partner considers and treats the submissive partner as an object to be used for his pleasure or satisfaction.

Fearplay in BDSM - A Guidebook

You may have heard of Fearplay in the context of BDSM, but don't know exactly what it means and how it fits into the scene? In this guide we will look into exactly what it means and explain to you what Fearplay means in BDSM and how it can be practiced safely and ethically.

Chemsex and Intox Play: What You Need to Know

Intox Play is a term used to describe the use of drugs such as alcohol or drugs during BDSM sessions. This can lead to lowering inhibitions and feeling braver to try certain practices.
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What is BDSM and bondage?

BDSM is the abbreviation for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission and Sadism & Masochism. Bondage refers to a person being tied up or restrained, while Discipline stands for punishment.

Dominance refers to a person being in control, while submission means that someone submits. Sadism refers to the pleasure of pain and masochism to the pleasure of submission and sensations of pain.

Together, these aspects form a world that is exciting and fulfilling for many people. However, it is important that everyone involved respects their boundaries and that everything happens voluntarily and with pleasure.

Tips and inspiration for beginners

Set your boundaries:

Before you get involved in the world of BDSM and bondage, it is important that you know your boundaries and communicate them. You can do this, for example, by agreeing a 'safeword' that you will use if you become uncomfortable.
Use the right equipment: Invest in high-quality restraints, whips, etc. to avoid injuries. Find out beforehand exactly which equipment is suitable for which practices.

Use condoms:

When trying out sexual practices, you should always use condoms to avoid STI's.

Practice:

Especially with more complex practices, it is important that you approach them slowly and carefully. Practice with gentle versions first and then gradually increase.

Respect the rules of BDSM:

There are certain rules and etiquette that should be followed in the BDSM community. Find out about these and make sure you adhere to them.

Use safewords:

As mentioned earlier, it's important that you agree on a safeword to let each other know if you become uncomfortable or want to end the session.

Enjoy the experience:

Remember that BDSM and bondage are a way to live out and explore your sexuality. Have fun and enjoy the experience!

Communicate with your partner:

The be-all and end-all in the BDSM world. Make sure you talk to your partner about your desires, preferences and boundaries to ensure an enjoyable and safe experience.