In this blog post we would like to clarify a little bit about DDLG and Daddykink. First of all, it is important to know that both forms are nothing forbidden! Everyone involved in this fetish is at least of legal age, even if many Littles don't feel that way.
What is DDLG?
Only a few people know what DDLG is. It's also hard to guess what it could be about if you have so purely nothing to do with the BDSM scene or with kinksex in general. DDLG means Daddy Dom and Little Girl. Exactly at this point it is often assumed that this is a forbidden sexual father-child relationship.
However, this is not the case. The DDLG meaning is merely that the man takes care of his wife in a fatherly way. Although the woman is often younger than the said daddy, she is by no means still a minor, let alone her own child.
The woman merely feels like a child and needs the appropriate attention and loving care from the man, i.e. the Daddy Dom.
What is Daddykink?
Daddykink is made up of the word daddy (father) and kink (kink). When we talk about kink sex or kinky sex, we are talking about fancy sex. Just everything that is different from vanilla sex (normal sex).
There is no clear daddy kink explanation because there are different definitions. Daddykink or DDLG fetish can be a sexual act. But it can just as well be the formation of a complete relationship.
If it is only purely about the sex, it is also spoken of DDLG sex or just also of the daddykink sex. The DDLG Kink Sex is a fetish from the area of dominance and submissiveness. However, it is purely about feeling good, about feeling safe.
The Littles, the "little" girls, always feel safe and protected during sex with Daddy Dom. Daddy takes care during sex not to hurt his little one and to always lovingly cradle her in safety during the act.
DDLG: the relationship
The Daddy Dom / little girl relationship is not lived out purely sexually, but runs through the common everyday life at home. Daddy's Little is treated like a child or toddler at home and the Little actually feels like one. Nothing is played here, but really lived.
The Littles are women who keep their inner child. They still want and need to grow and mature inside. In order for them to fully develop and evolve, they need their Daddydom. He raises his Little in a gentle but determined way.
Daddy decides when it's bedtime, makes sure his Little girl dresses warm enough, and also uses a lot of time to cuddle and play. The Little fetish is not just sexual in nature in the relationship, but has a much larger meaning.
Daddykink: the role of the woman
The role of the woman is associated with a lot of childlike joie de vivre. She is purely outwardly and from the year of birth, adult woman but, actually somehow still child. For example, she likes to watch cartoons, color pictures, do handicrafts and go through life with a light naivety and playfulness.
A gentle, vulnerable being, which must be well protected. Tasks in the household the Little Girl, which is also called only Little, takes over only slightly. Only light tasks are assigned to the Little. She should be able to spend her time playing and enjoying life and set her own goals.
In these goals, it is always encouraged and supported by its daddy.
As a rule, being a child runs through the entire daily routine. However, there are also Little Girls who have a working life or also experience some independence, such as driving a car.
Daddykink: the role of the man
The man is the dominant part in the BDSM DDLG fetish. He is the daddy and regulates everything in the relationship. He has a steady job, takes care of his Little Girl and does everything to make sure that his Little can enjoy herself properly.
Although he has a dominant role, at the same time he also has a gentle and protective role. A good Daddy Dom must be consistent, but kind. He enforces rules, but must always provide a sense of familiarity and security. The Daddy is not a real father, but a partner or husband with fatherly qualities.
Daddykink father complex
Outsiders in particular like to claim that Littles have a father complex. Medically, this has not been proven. Yes, the women crave paternal security. However, this does not mean that they want a real daddy.
They simply want a man who can protect them and who will take care of them. In their hearts, the ladies are simply very young, they do not want to participate in the turmoil of real life, but only do what they feel like.
Of course, experiences from childhood can also be associated with the fetish. Here, however, each Little must find out for herself why she is the way she is. There are no firm studies about whether a father complex is present or not.
What is the Little Space?
The Little Space is like a world of its own that the Little Girls create for themselves. They do not live in the Little Space all the time, but only for a more or less short period of time. But the special state is only created when the Little has a really trustworthy daddy.
During the time the girl is in Little Space, she is especially sensitive. It is a kind of trance, a very intense moment that the girl experiences there. She falls back into a really childlike age. This is shown by the pronunciation, which can be infantile. But it also shows up based on the actions and new hobbies.
For example, cartoons have taken on even more importance. Toys for toddlers are preferred. Some women also demand a pacifier or suck their thumb. Others want to eat only porridge for children. In this special time, it is important that the Daddy Dom is always there for his little one and pays attention to the health of the apparent child.
World with children's eyes
The world is perceived with children's eyes. Everything looks even more colorful than it is. A small butterfly alone can make for big, shiny eyes. However, things can also turn into the opposite. If Daddy ever scolds, it can lead to deep sadness or even defiance.
Sexually, Little Space is perfect for enjoying a true BDSM Little. The girls love costumes during this time. This allows for some delightful role play. Pet Play is also very popular, as the Little Girl can also "transform" into a puppy or a putty.
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Rules in Daddykink partnerships
In a Daddykink partnership, there needs to be firm rules in order for it to harmonize. Neither of them must feel overburdened or even taken advantage of. It must be ensured that both parts are aware of their roles, respectively their way of life.
It must not be played, it must be real. Played daddies are quickly overwhelmed. Those who only play a little girl may soon feel misunderstood or even abused. Clear agreements are necessary, firm Daddykink rules simply belong to it.
Sometimes the Littles grow out of their roles. This should not make a daddy fall into sadness, but into pride. Because only by his support the Little could grow and mature.
DDLG Community
The Internet now offers a good range of DDLG communities. Especially in Germany this fetish becomes more and more popular. There are real DDLG Germany groups, where you can exchange information.
The internet also offers the perfect opportunity to find a Daddy Dom or a Little Girl. In addition, there are rooms where the DDLG rules can also be clearly agreed before the first meeting.
