As a kinkster, you are someone who wants to act out sexually and doesn't necessarily prefer the socially accepted sex. Kinky / Kinkysex stands for bent sex, for extraordinary. Now this does not have to be a particularly pronounced BDSM fetish. Alone, if you are into soft role-playing, you are a bit kinky.
This is what makes a kinkster
Being a bit kinky doesn't make you a real kinkster. A real kinkster loves variety. Vanilla sex only happens in exceptional cases and is not exactly on your agenda. As a Kinkster you radiate a certain basic sympathy and are always open for new things.
You make no secret of the fact that you like unusual sex. If you live out your role as a Kinkster properly, you're probably not monogamous either, and you're also not committed to a particular role. You are not a permanent person, but someone who likes to change roles. You try out new things and can also test your limits and expand them if necessary. You can be dominant, but also submissive.
Be aware that you are a kinkster
Especially if you are looking for a steady partner and maybe want to have a family, you should be aware that you are a kinkster. Make yourself aware of it and stand by it. Because if you are not the vanilla type, sooner or later you will want to live out your unusual preferences at all costs.
This doesn't mean that you can't have a steady relationship. You can even get married and have children. This can harmonize, even if you are a Kinkster. However, the partner must also be into kinksex and clear agreements must be kept.
Good examples of harmonious kink relationships are for example cuckold couples or daddykink. For outsiders, or for vanillas, these are really weird relationships. But for real kinksters they are quite normal and especially harmonious.
It must fit
It is important that it really fits. Either you go through life alone and always look for variety or you land the desired bull's eye when choosing a partner. Not all Kinksters are the same. For example, you may be into rapeplay or petplay, while your partner may only like soft roleplay or some bondage.
Clarify it in advance what you want to do and what is preferred. Harmony and trust are important. If it goes really violently to the thing, are of course in advance again clear codewords to make out, so that both parts are on the safe thing and can stop everything with the appropriate word. As a kinkster you can experience a lot and test yourself well through all possible fetishes.
