Vanilla or also vanilla sex are terms for normal sexual intercourse. Often vanilla is brought to word in the BDSM area to show a clear demarcation. There are Vanillas, Kinkys, BDSMler and so on.
Instead of vanilla, the term stino is also often used. In plain language this word means "stinknormal". A badly chosen word, which hides a lot of devaluation.
Vanilla, on the other hand, is a somewhat more benevolent description of stinky. It derives from the ever-popular vanilla ice cream. Somehow it tastes good to most, but some still find it boring.
Who is Vanilla?
Vanilla is anyone who does not dare to engage in fancy sex practices. This doesn't have to have a specific reason, some just don't need to act out in fancy ways. What is vanilla, however, is not firmly established anywhere. You are vanilla if, for example, you only like simple sex in the missionary position.
Maybe you even refuse to lick or suck. If that's the case, you're definitely a fan of vanilla sex. It's perfectly fine! But you can also count as vanilla if you like different sex positions or also like to be licked / get a blowjob. This is also still vanilla sex.
You will only become a Kinky if you like role-playing games or if you like to be fucked harder. BDSMler, on the other hand, you become only if you go for real hardcore sex. Whether dominant or submissive does not matter.
What do I have to keep in mind?
There is not too much to consider when having vanilla sex. It is part of life for most people. If you are in a long-term relationship, you will have vanilla sex at best several times a week without getting bored. As with all sex practices, it is important that there is always mutual consent.
The word vanilla sex should never be used amusingly or pejoratively. Everyone should accept the preferences of others. Those who are into S&M or the like are welcome to do so, but the "normalos" should not be devalued in any way. Loving normal sex can also be beautiful.
