The meaning of the safeword
Yes, I too am one of those women who secretly dream of rough, violent sex. A real rape with two or three men, that would be something for me. As a game, of course! Who wants to be abused for real?!
So that nobody misunderstands me, I'm Susanne, 41 years old and I like unusual BDSM games. While my husband Mark is the dominant part in our sessions, I'm the one who enjoys having everything done to me. I carry out tasks, I allow myself to be punished, I let myself be taken hard. Such power games are exactly our thing and everyone has their wonderful role.
We plan our session
Since my husband is very open-minded, I don't need to continue secretly dreaming of rape. I can live out my dream freely. But only after planning and discussing the details in advance, of course. Rapeplay can escalate quickly if clear boundaries are not set beforehand. Mark brought in our best friend Chris.
We are friends and share the same preferences. So it happens that we live out our BDSM games together. Chris was a bit skeptical about my RapePlay idea at first. His fear of becoming an animal and overdoing it grew. But that's exactly what I want. And to make this clear, we now sit together and discuss everything.
Mark must not react to Chris. If a man sees that his wife is being harmed, he usually intervenes. It must be clear that this is a game, a passion. Chris and Mark have understood this and should be able to catch, hold and abuse me together.
We clarify what can and can't be done. Just because I say I want to be raped by the boys doesn't mean they are allowed to do anything. I don't want to be hurt. In other words, there are no stabbing or cutting tools involved and I don't like being burned either. No butts are squeezed out on me and no burn marks are set.
Rough touching, tightly tying me up until it hurts and thrusting into me until I scream is clearly permitted. The men are free to decide how they catch and restrain me. There has to be a bit of surprise and free action. It should feel a little bit real.
To avoid any misunderstandings, we agree on a safeword. Words like "no", "stop" and "stop" don't really help with rape play. I'll probably be shouting them all the time. A safeword like that would be a hindrance. That's why the word that ends the session immediately is "sauerkraut". A word that has nothing to do with the session and that you can't accidentally include. If one of us says the word, the session ends because one of us no longer feels comfortable in the situation.
My rape play begins
Everything has been discussed, everything is prepared. We've set everything up in our secluded garden so that we can live out a great rape fantasy. Our garden borders a wooded area, so even if I scream loudly, no one will hear me, so we can get started undisturbed. I stand at the bar in my bikini and pretend to mix myself a drink.
Mark stands in front of me. He's nice and flirts with me. Chris sneaks up behind me unnoticed. He grabs my shoulders, tries to hold me tight. I see a change in Mark's expression. He wants me to give him the go-ahead that I really still want it. I nod at him, pull myself out of Chris's grip and run off.
Both men rush after me, trying to grab me. I'm as quick as a rabbit, but I'm not very fit. I pretend I want to hide in a hedge and crawl away on all cylinders. A hand grabs my bikini bottoms and rips them off my body. I scream for help, but no one notices me.
Mark and Chris carry on. They grab me and stick their fingers into my now exposed pubic area. Chris kisses my lips, but not the ones on my face. He starts to lick me while Mark pushes his cock into my face. I am still resisting. I scream "stop" and "let me go".
And that's exactly what turns them on even more. They take me the way they want. I hit, scratch, try to bite. Everything that makes the men even wilder. And yes, I'm having fun.
By now I'm lying on my back on the grass. Mark pushes his huge penis into my vagina. He thrusts with full force! Again and again. He almost seems to be tearing me apart. But I enjoy every single thrust. It's so wonderful to feel him deep inside me in this hard way.
Chris gets himself off while he holds my arms in place with just one hand. The two of them obviously hadn't thought about tying me up. I manage to free one arm and push Chris away forcefully. Wow, what strength I suddenly have. Chris looks angry. He storms towards me, punches me in the face and squeezes my neck. At first it really gets me excited.
But Chris increases the pressure and I can't breathe. I look at Mark in panic, but he doesn't notice. My eyes widen with fear, I don't want this anymore!!!! "Sauerkraut," I croak out chokingly and immediately the grip on my neck loosens, the penis disappears from my body. They both let go of me. I'm safe, everything is fine!
Safety even in retrospect
This BDSM session was a really different experience for all of us, but especially for me. I'd never had to use a safeword before. But the fear of choking was simply too great. Maybe Chris had simply gone too far without really realizing it. But this is now all discussed in peace.
The three of us sit snuggled up on our oversized Hollywood swing. I sit in the middle and Mark holds me in his arms. Safe and protected. No one here is angry with anyone. Of course, both men immediately apologize. But they weren't necessary. It was all great, it was just a little moment that was just too much for me.
But I don't have to apologize either, because a BDSM game is only a game as long as everyone is doing well. We review our session and talk about everything. It's called aftercare. Because anyone who has such crazy sex games in store as we do needs a lot of physical and emotional caresses so that even the hardest sex remains a good memory.
After we've discussed everything and we all feel safe again, we play a nice game of Mensch ärger dich nicht. Just like that, without any ulterior motives, without talking about sex. No, we don't repress, we process things together and otherwise live a wonderfully normal life. It's just that safewords and aftercare are also part of our lives.
Diese Geschichte ist eine starke Erinnerung daran, wie wichtig Konsens und Sicherheit in BDSM-Spielen sind. Es ist gut zu sehen, wie die Charaktere klare Grenzen setzen und ein Safewort verwenden.
Ein zusätzlicher Tipp, den ich hinzufügen möchte, ist die Bedeutung der regelmäßigen Kommunikation. Es ist wichtig, regelmäßig zu überprüfen, ob alle Beteiligten sich noch wohl fühlen, besonders in intensiven Szenarien wie diesem
Ich schätze die Darstellung von Aftercare in dieser Geschichte. Es ist ein oft übersehener Aspekt von BDSM, aber es ist so wichtig für die emotionale und physische Gesundheit aller Beteiligten. Ein Tipp, den ich hinzufügen möchte, ist, dass Aftercare individuell ist und sich von Person zu Person unterscheiden kann.
Einige Menschen brauchen vielleicht körperliche Berührung wie Umarmungen oder Streicheleinheiten, während andere vielleicht Raum und Zeit für sich selbst brauchen. Es ist wichtig, dies zu besprechen und sicherzustellen, dass die Bedürfnisse aller Beteiligten erfüllt werden.
Diese Geschichte zeigt deutlich, wie wichtig es ist, ein Safewort zu haben und es zu respektieren. Es ist ein lebenswichtiger Aspekt von BDSM-Spielen und kann dazu beitragen, die Sicherheit und das Wohlbefinden aller Beteiligten zu gewährleisten.
Ein zusätzlicher Tipp, den ich hinzufügen möchte, ist, dass es hilfreich sein kann, auch ein nonverbales Safewort oder Signal zu haben, besonders in Szenarien, in denen der unterwürfige Partner möglicherweise nicht in der Lage ist, zu sprechen.