Finding a partner in the field of BDSM can be quite difficult. However, if you have found your soul mate, you can consider yourself lucky. But what if the partner lives many kilometers away or even in another country.
Not always can these distances be bridged quickly and unbureaucratically. Is a long-distance relationship in the field of BDSM at all possible and reasonable? We show you which factors are important for a long-distance BDSM relationship.
Long distance relationships - a test of endurance for all couples
Long-distance relationships are difficult and for many couples a clear test of endurance. After all, you often don't see your partner for weeks or even months at a time. For BDSM relationships, this is also a heavy burden, but can be eased a little by the use of modern media. However, it is indispensable that both partners adhere to certain principles and basic rules.
Dom and sub stay in their roles and are honest
Honesty plays an important role in a long-distance BDSM relationship. This is because it is the only way to maintain the power imbalance and the associated pleasure over distance. This means that the or the sub fulfills the commands of the Dom, even if this is difficult to control.
Only in this way can punishments be effectively carried out and experienced, which are important for both parts of the relationship. Honesty is a basic requirement for this form of long distance relationship to work.
Communication is the key
When you and your partner can't see each other, everything important has to be done through communication. Because facial expressions and especially body language are very difficult to replace. No matter whether you talk on the phone, use video telephony, write e-mails or short messages to each other, or rely on the classic letter, it is imperative that you communicate comprehensively with each other. Your words can bridge the distance best and offer you a feeling of security and partnership.
Photos and videos for documentation
Especially subs want to please and be pleasing to the dominant partner. This means, for example, that the ordered punishments are documented via videos or even photos. A nice idea that can get the partner hot and at the same time show that the punishments were accepted and carried out.
This doesn't mean that meticulously and thoroughly every single action has to be documented, but a picture or a video can occasionally provide some hot moments.
Create little rituals
Rituals are especially important in a long-distance BDSM relationship. For example, you can talk on the phone the night before you go to bed. As a sub, you can ask your partner for permission to sleep or for permission to pleasure yourself before you sleep.
Depending on the situation, the Dom can allow or refuse this. This control even in normal life can keep sexual desire very much alive and increase the anticipation of the next meeting immensely. It is often these little rituals that make a long-distance BDSM relationship a special experience.
