The punishment book is a tool in the field of BDSM, which can be used to document upcoming punishments for the or the sub and at the same time increase the anticipation of these punishments.
The form and appearance of the punishment book can vary greatly. The important thing is that all parties involved agree to the use of a punishment book.
What is a punishment book?
A punishment book is a notebook or book in which the offenses of the sub(s) are recorded, including the punishments due for them. Usually, a punishment book is kept old-fashioned by hand, although there are digital versions. It serves both as a reminder for the dominant part and also promotes anticipation and fear of the punishments in the dominated.
Who keeps the punishment book?
In most cases, the subs have to keep the punishment book themselves. At the request of the dominant person, their own offenses and punishments are simply entered into the punishment book. This not only provides additional humiliation, but can also significantly spur anticipation of the punishments documented in this way.
However, this is always dependent on the participants as well. There are also BDSM relationships in which the dominant person or persons keeps the book and really celebrates the entries. Thus, the punishment book can become a central element in the joint game.
Why is a penalty book so valuable for many players?
It is not always possible to punish offenses directly. Because the game does not always take place in a protected space. If you are out in public and see your sub violating your own rules, you want to be able to punish him or her.
Here the punishment book is a perfect solution. Because in this then inconspicuously the offenses and also the punishments due for it are registered. This provides not only a sexual tension, but also an anticipation for both parties.
The limits of the punishment book in the BDSM relationship
The punishment book is both a tool and a toy and can and should be used to increase and intensify the sexual anticipation of punishments and punishment.
However, the punishment book should never be used as a means of pressure to fulfill one's own desires and to emotionally blackmail the partner. It is often difficult to draw a proper line here. It helps if you understand the punishment book as a play tool like a whip, a paddle or a gag.
How to create your own punishment book
Creating your own punishment book is very easy. All you need is a blank notebook or book and an agreement with your partner.
Because when creating a punishment book, both parties should agree on it. Because overriding must always be the joint decision for or against new game elements, even in a BDSM relationship.
The content of a punishment book can look like this
In most punishment books, not only the offenses are documented, but also the punishments to be expected for them. Possible entries would be:
- Disobeyed the master: 10 strokes with the paddle
- Chased after another woman: 1 more day without orgasm
As you can see, with a punishment book you can significantly enrich your love life in a BDSM relationship.
