Aftercare is one of the most important things when it comes to BDSM. No, we're not talking about some sex practice that's possibly more outlandish than anything you know.
This is about much more important things, namely the aftercare! This is necessary for body and soul after every BDSM session and should never be dismissed as unimportant.
Why the aftercare is so important
Even during normal vanilla sex, the body experiences quite a few hormone surges and unknown feelings. Now imagine what happens to your body and psyche when you try outlandish things like bondage, spanking, petplay or even rapeplay.
You are subjected to pain and fears as a sub.
You are subjected to pain and fears as a sub.
You find yourself in situations you couldn't imagine before. If you are then simply left behind after the game, you cannot process what has happened. Your body and mind need to be taught that you are always safe, that nothing bad happened to you, and that it was all a game that you also enjoyed.
So, after care and BDSM absolutely belong together. Even if you search the internet for BDSM tips, you will always come across the topic of after care.
BDSM tips for after care
When it comes to aftercare, there are several options available. Here are a few tips and ideas on how you could create a wonderful aftercare.
Non-sexual physical contact is very often sought after when the session is over. Say not get up and run away, but maybe just cuddle a bit, lie in each other's arms. The dominant part should show his sub that he is there for him. Just take him in strong arms. There is no need to act or talk in the process.
Silence and time is also something that some wish for. Not everyone has the need to feel the other right after, in any way. Give each other the rest and time that is needed. It can happen that one wants to do the whole thing alone.
Lasting aftercare is also very important. Especially if the play partner is someone who prefers to withdraw afterwards. Because here it must be paid attention to it that the psyche remains stable. He must not fall into sadness, fear or anger. It is not uncommon for signs of depression to show up after a fancy BDSM session.
Non-sexual physical contact is very often sought after when the session is over. Say not get up and run away, but maybe just cuddle a bit, lie in each other's arms. The dominant part should show his sub that he is there for him. Just take him in strong arms. There is no need to act or talk in the process.
Silence and time is also something that some wish for. Not everyone has the need to feel the other right after, in any way. Give each other the rest and time that is needed. It can happen that one wants to do the whole thing alone.
Lasting aftercare is also very important. Especially if the play partner is someone who prefers to withdraw afterwards. Because here it must be paid attention to it that the psyche remains stable. He must not fall into sadness, fear or anger. It is not uncommon for signs of depression to show up after a fancy BDSM session.
This person MUST be caught! Speak also at a later time may and should be talked about the session. But it can also be talked about all other things in the world. The person must only see that he is not left alone.
Physical wounds are also to be taken care of and are part of BDSM Aftercare. Physical injuries may occur during some sessions. After all, a whip doesn't just tickle. And a needle can also go a little deeper under the skin. So it's important to always have everything you need for wound care. Even wounds that do not heal immediately must be treated in the long term.
Physical wounds are also to be taken care of and are part of BDSM Aftercare. Physical injuries may occur during some sessions. After all, a whip doesn't just tickle. And a needle can also go a little deeper under the skin. So it's important to always have everything you need for wound care. Even wounds that do not heal immediately must be treated in the long term.
Things you should pay attention to
When it comes to aftercare, you should never bring up the things that didn't go so well. Only positive feedback is desired here now. Anything that rebuilds and delights the person is allowed. So mention things that you particularly enjoyed. Be friendly and pay attention to what your sub needs right now.
A smile, something sweet or even a nice red rose show appreciation and can be part of after care.
If you have a new play partner, always check with them beforehand. Discuss not only your play session, but also what is desired at aftercare.
Selfcare is just as important. Take care of yourself as well. You can only do aftercare if you yourself are doing well.
If you have a new play partner, always check with them beforehand. Discuss not only your play session, but also what is desired at aftercare.
Selfcare is just as important. Take care of yourself as well. You can only do aftercare if you yourself are doing well.
